Dear Aunty
My boyfriend keeps nagging as he wants me to watch porn with him and I keep putting him off telling him we’ll do it another time. The truth is, I don’t want to. Not only do I think I’ll get really embarrassed but I know I’ll feel jealous of the women on there. How can I get out of it?
Dear Doormat,
You’ve got yourself in a tight situation here. If you blow up now he’s going to wonder why you’re so set against something you’ve said you’ll try. I’d question his motives behind it, does he want you to learn something new, is he incapable of getting off without the visual stimulation or have you been together for decades and this is just to add a bit of spark? Porn can help some relationships and there are loads of couples who enjoy watching it together but if you’re not comfortable with it you shouldn’t force yourself as that’s completely natural too. Have a drink, blurt it out, just say, “I don’t want to watch porn with you”. Then see where the conversation goes. If he’s a good bloke he’ll listen and he’ll try to understand how hurt it makes you feel, if he’s a selfish prick he’ll tell you you’re frigid – in which case- get rid!
In the meantime, cop a load of this!
